Response to a Christian Friend About Same Sex Marriage and to the Christians Who are Uncertain About This Topic

A Christian friend of mine started to advocate for gay rights and their belief in same sex marriage. He became a spokes person for a new organization to promote an awareness and dialogue with conservative Christian organizations and with a goal to change their perspective on biblical views about marriage. This is their mission statement:

Our mission is straightforward: Evangelicals for Marriage Equality exists to cultivate a new conversation on the issue of civil marriage equality, so that evangelicals understand that it’s possible to be a faithful Christian and a supporter of same-sex marriage.

Below was my response back to my Christian friend supporting same sex marriage. After he read what I wrote on my facebook page, he deleted me out of his friendship page. Ouch! That hurts! I listened to his, but I guess he didn’t want to listen to me. It seems the word “tolerance” only has one direction.


Part I


In your organization’s mission statement, it is stated, “so that evangelicals understand that it’s possible to be a faithful Christian and a supporter of same-sex marriage.” What does it really mean to be a “faithful Christian?” Who are we being faithful to and what values do we hold onto as true followers of Jesus Christ? As a “faithful Christian” do we neglect the “Great Commission” and put on a new “Cause” with a NEW “SOCIAL GOSPEL”? Do we follow the whole counsel of God or pick and choose the Jesus we only want and make Him our vessel? The Mormons, Jehovah Witnesses, and Muslims have created their own Jesus. Are we moving towards that direction? Even the 2011 New International Version Bibles have started to change the gender from its original meaning to fit the culture. WAS THE BIBLE WRITTEN TO SUPPORT THE CULTURE?

Did Jesus come to make everyone happy and have people live the life style they want? Was God’s freely given “grace” be taken advantage to benefit the agendas of man? So, then what did Jesus mean when he said, “Do you think that I have come to give peace on earth? No, I tell you, but rather division” (Luke 12:51)? In your blogs, articles, and interviews, you talk about God’s “grace” and “love” and how we as Christians should follow Jesus teachings on it. Then, how do we follow what Jesus clearly taught with His action in Matthew 21:12-13? Should we ignore Jesus driving out with His anger on the people who were simply doing what they been doing for years. I’m sure some of them have families and the work they were doing was the only thing bringing food to their starving children.

WHERE WAS JESUS’ “GRACE” AND “LOVE”? Why did he physically and with a whip (John 2:15), had to throw them out? Why didn’t Jesus be a peace-maker and have a nice dialogue between grown adults? By throwing them out, Jesus clearly made a judgment. Jesus is teaching us NOT to negotiate or make trade with evil: “Take these things away: do not make my Father’s house a house of trade” (John 2:16). Romans 12:9 reminds us to “Hate what is evil; cling to what is good.” These are very strong words to “hate evil” and “cling to good.” The word hate in its original meaning is to “intensively dislike it” and cling means to “glue together” or to “cement.” Jesus is clearly teaching us to intensively hate evil and cement ourselves to the one who can only be good. If we are to be “faithful Christian” then we must be “imitators of God, as beloved children” (Ephesians 5:1). Are you willing to imitate Jesus?

Does the meaning of a “faithful Christian” is to support and accept the new “social gospel”? Whatever happened to preaching the whole counsel of God?

Acts 20:25-27 (ESV) 
25 And now, behold, I know that none of you among whom I have gone about proclaiming the kingdom will see my face again. 26 Therefore I testify to you this day that I am innocent of the blood of all, 27 for I did not shrink from declaring to you the whole counsel of God.

Should we think like the world and give religious consumers what they want, not necessarily what the Bible says is needed? If we do what the religious consumers want, then can we like Paul say, “I am innocent of the blood of all”? [The word “Blood” stands for being lost eternally. In another other way of saying, “I am innocent if any of you loses eternal life.”] When you are in front of Jesus, will you accept the blood of innocent men, women, and children that was led astray by the “social gospel”? In Acts 18:6 the Jews reject Paul in the city of Corinth: “And when they opposed and reviled him, he shook out his garments and said to them, “Your blood be on your own heads! I am innocent. From now on I will go to the Gentiles.” Paul is telling us that he is innocent of the blood not because he didn’t speak of the “whole counsel of God” but because they wouldn’t let him speak it. They didn’t want to hear it. Thus, it was to go on their own blood.

I do not want the blood on my head for not speaking the whole counsel of God. I desire and want to be a “faithful Christian” and speak the “whole” truth. I will make it clear as a pastor: I do not think it is wrong for people of same sex to get married if they are NOT believers in Jesus Christ. Homosexuality was rampant in the Old and New Testament times. All throughout biblical history, the Greek and Roman empires existed alongside temples and shrines with female and male prostitutes. Homosexuality was common and normal practice and for some cultures it was part of their nobility right. Because of this life style and the nature of man’s heart, the New Testament was written to teach believers in Christ to live in the whole counsel of God; holy (1 Peter 1:16) and separate as His chosen people. But, if we call ourselves true believers in Jesus, then we should not be supporting Satan’s strategies of tarrying down what God himself instituted.

I’ve stood silent long enough and stayed quiet, trying not to bring any division, but the push to change young and old Christian minds to Satan’s agendas by misinforming the public with partial biblical knowledge has brought more danger and harm to those who are seeking God’s truth. I have many cousins, nephews, nieces, church members, youth group kids, and many children who on my social media network. I do not want them to be biblically confused and be influenced by the devil’s lies. My silence was too long and I have seen enough Christians hurt by the lies of devil. I’ve decided to fight back with the truth and tell the world what it means to be a true faithful follower of Jesus Christ and I hope that you will join me in fighting this spiritual warfare.

Ephesians 6:10-13 (ESV) 
10 Finally, be strong in the Lord and in the strength of his might. 11 Put on the whole armor of God, that you may be able to stand against the schemes of the devil. 12 For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the cosmic powers over this present darkness, against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly places. 13 Therefore take up the whole armor of God, that you may be able to withstand in the evil day, and having done all, to stand firm.

The bottom line:
At the day of Judgment, what will you say in front of Jesus?

Continue to Part II >>>

Also, listen to Minister James McCullum speak on the topic of
“What is an Ideal Marriage?”

Minister James has been teaching Bible study at his law firm
for many years and has counseled numerous men on their marriages.
His wife has been a marriage therapist for many years
and both have impacted married couples towards Christ.